All The Kissing’s Favorite Romance Tropes

Romance Tropes

If you’ve studied writing, odds are you’ve heard of the 36 Dramatic Situations or 36 Plot Lines. This list was determined after the author Georges Poll studied and analyzed not only classical Greek texts, but also classical and contemporary French works. The basic tenet of his analysis concludes that in all of literature and performance, there are only these 36 situations. Everything that’s been written or performed since is a variant on one of these. But what does that have to do with romance tropes?

It took me a moment to appreciate that what Poll did was compile what he saw as an exhaustive list of tropes. What is a trope? Something comforting, something familiar. Again looking at Wikipedia, we find the definition of literary trope: “The word trope has also come to be used for describing commonly recurring literary and rhetorical devices, motifs or clichés in creative works.”

If a trope is a cliché, then isn’t that a bad thing? Shouldn’t we avoid them? I wondered that myself when I was at the RWA conference this summer and stumbled on a workshop on tropes in romance. What I took away from that workshop (and from the conference as a whole) is that tropes are what keep the romance genre turning. We often hear feedback from agents and editors telling us they want something different. What I’ve learned—at least in my own experience—is that this isn’t entirely true.

The books that sell are filled with tropes. It’s that the authors have taken the time to put their own spin on these time-tested, best-selling storylines and made them into something new and different. Something unique.

RWA polled its members about their favorite romance tropes in 2014. The list is far from inclusive when it comes to tropes, but it does give an insight into what many people want to see. According to Romance Writers of America, the top ten most popular romance tropes are:

  1. Friends to Lovers
  2. Soul Mate/Fate
  3. Second Chance at Love
  4. Secret Romance
  5. First Love
  6. Strong Hero/Heroine
  7. Reunited Lovers
  8. Love Triangle
  9. Sexy Billionaire/Millionaire
  10. Sassy Heroine

At All The Kissing, I conducted an utterly unscientific poll to see which tropes our members like best, and which trope-filled books they recommend. After modest outrage that Enemies to Lovers hadn’t made the list—and a bit of discussion about the differences between Second Chance at Love vs Reunited Lovers (the general consensus was that Second Chance is where the couple broke up, but have a second chance at their relationship later in life, and Reunited Lovers is a case of circumstance, not choice, breaking the lovers apart until some later time and Strong Hero/Heroine vs Sassy Heroine (strong doesn’t equal sassy, but sassy heroines are often strong)—I’m happy to give you a sampling of our favorite romance tropes, with examples.

Most books contain a major trope theme, but in many cases they contain more than one trope. Please keep in mind as you read on that this or any list of tropes is far from exhaustive. If you’re not familiar with the concept of tropes, TV Tropes is a fine place to start. Don’t say I didn’t warn you: most times I get lost there for days, if not weeks on end.

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Our Favorite Romance Tropes

Without further ado, here’s All The Kissing’s list of our favorite romance tropes and a few books we feel fall into those categories.

Enemies to Lovers

The Taming of the Shrew, William Shakespeare
Interview with the Vampire, Anne Rice
The Hating Game, Sally Thorne
Divergent Series, Veronica Roth
Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen

Friends to Lovers

Emma, Jane Austen
A Girl Like You, Gemma Burgess
Sutphin Boulevard, Santino Hassell

Soul Mate/Fate

The Princess Bride, William Goldman
Fallen, Lauren Kate
Remembrance, Jude Deveraux

Second Chance at Love

Once In A Lifetime, Harper Bliss
Bad Influence, KA Mitchell

Secret Romance

An Extraordinary Union, Alyssa Cole
A Lady Awakened, Cecilia Grant

First Love

Anne of Green Gables, Lucy Maud Montgomery
Bridge to Terabithia, Katherine Paterson
David Copperfield, Charles Dickens

Strong Hero/Heroine

The On the Ropes Series, Aly Martinez
Haven, Rebekah Weatherspoon.

Love Triangle

The Love Square, Jessica Calla
The Hunger Games Series, Suzanne Collins

Sexy Billionaire/Millionaire

Trade Me, Courtney Milan
Maid for the Billionaire, Ruth Cardello
The Sinclairs Series, J.S. Scott

Sassy Heroine

Bet Me, Jennifer Crusie
The Spotless Series, Camilla Monk

Opposites Attract

Flow, Kennedy Ryan

Fake Romance

Far From Home, Lorelie Brown
The Marriage Bargain, Jennifer Probst

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My thanks to Lynn Czerniawski, Jen DeLuca, Valerie Gower, Avery Kingston, Rosanna Leo, Lisa Leoni, Judy Lin, Mary Ann Marlowe, Julia Miller, Kelli Newby, Sarah Smith, Anne Terpstra, Lidy Wilks, and JR Yates, without whom this post would have been impossible. To read more on these tropes and books, and why and how they made the list, join the discussion at

This is but a small sampling of the romance tropes you’re likely to find in novels.

Remember, tropes (in particular, our favorite tropes) are what keep readers coming back to romance.

They lend an air of familiarity to any book, but we read in anticipation of the way each author will bend or enhance the trope to catch our interest. If I’ve left out your favorite romance tropes or if you’ve got questions about any of the tropes mentioned in this article, let me know in comments below.

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G. L. Jackson
G.L. Jackson lives in the Seattle area with her family and pets. Although born in New York City and raised in New England, she prefers the west coast.

She's been writing since childhood. While some things never change, she hopes the quality of those stories has increased at least a little over time. These days her focus is primarily on contemporary rock & roll romance featuring strong, sassy heroines who know what they want and aren't afraid to reach for it. She does her best to bust at least a few tropes per book. Banter is her guilty pleasure.
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    Camilla Monk

    I just stumbled across this article: thank you so much for mentioning the Spotless series. It means all the more to me since Spotless as a whole and its heroine’s love of romance book is kind of a meta comment on tropes in general. 🙂

    March 20, 2018 at 8:06 pm Reply
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    Tinthia Clemanbt

    Hi, I see second chance at love to also include the broken-hearted hero or heroine or both who’ve given up on love and suddenly find it again in each other’s arms.

    January 6, 2019 at 5:53 pm Reply
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    PI in Oakville

    Terrific writing on random topics. Im trying to currently
    accomplish something similar to what you have here except on
    a totally different topic. Thank you for the inspiration to
    write better content.

    March 1, 2019 at 7:33 am Reply
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    C.K. Brooke

    Enemies to lovers is my fave!

    June 24, 2019 at 10:33 am Reply
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    Question – I’m not sure I understand what a fake romance trope would look like…

    Oh and I loved the article – I was worried my story ideas were cliche. Turns out they’re tropes.

    July 24, 2019 at 7:49 pm Reply
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      Hi, there! Typically, a “fake romance” is a story where the couple comes together under the guise of being in love to accomplish an ulterior motive (i.e., she can only claim her inheritance once married, so she enters into a contract of sorts with someone to get what she needs). Of course, being that it is a romance novel, the two USUALLY end up together, anyway, and their “fake” romance transitions into something real/permanent. Hope that helps!

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        Nicole Eby

        Of course! Thanks 😊

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